I am a positive person – one who used to jump out of bed in the morning as a child and have a “sunny” disposition most of the time – just ask my mother. And although I do NOT jump out of bed in the morning now – I’m still the same positive person – for the most part.
I usually see the best in people – not the worst. This can be a problem. How – you say? Well if I only see the good in people – and ignore or avoid the dark side of behavior or tendencies – then it always seems to surprise and sneak up on me when things go sideways. And not in a good way.
However – because of my ability to “see only the best” I have been able to go places that few ever dare to. Jumping in and charging full force into something I have NO CLUE about – or what dangers may lie waiting for me there.
I like to think of this as sheer optimism – but others call it reckless abandon and naivety. And I have paid a very high emotional cost for going there with some. A price that I still pay today.
How does one truly love and see the good – without holding back and analyzing people first? Deciding whether or not they are worth my time – or anyone’s time? I’ve never been very good at holding back.
I’ve also never been one to give up easily.
I am VERY persistent in the things that other deem “impossible”.
You say I CAN’T do that? I say – Yes I can!
That situation is impossible, you say? No it is NOT! Thank you very much.
You say that I will never be able to learn that new task? I will learn it or die trying.
If there is an unresolved relationship, daunting and scary to revisit and investigate – You say – “that person will never revisit – ever begin the scary process of starting again – where there has been silence – suddenly start talking again”. I say, “ARE YOU KIDDING ME?” I will never stop believing – never stop praying – never stop hoping. My motto is: “Hope spring eternal” – and that is how I will always see it. Period.
And if we are Christians and really live like we believe – then SHAME ON THOSE who tell me there is no hope in a situation. No possibility for reconciliation from a estranged brother or sister – no glimmer of things to be put to right again. I believe the impossible – because I really live what I believe. I cannot be responsible for how others respond to pain, loss and hurt – but I can be ready to receive them back – when they finally are ready to come back. I am ready to give up the fight – and to welcome back what was lost to me.
And I’m just dumb enough to believe that once someone imprints on your heart – they are never really lost to you – and that someday they will come back. And that love is the greatest motivator we have. A friendship that had depth and meaning – will always find a way to make amends. Even when dumb things are said and done. Even then.
How persistent are you in your faith? In a relationship gone bad? In something new that takes patience and resolve? Don’t wait to resolve it – the other person at the end of your dark journey may just be waiting for you there.
I am praying for you today.
- The Value Of Good Friendships (cindyholman.wordpress.com)