So after posting that video a couple of days ago on Men’s vs. Women’s brains – I’ve been doing some thinking. Not that we Women EVER STOP thinking. No. What I mean is that I was thinking about the video :)
Men have a “nothing” box. Where they go to unwind after stress – or to just do ‘nothing’. Women don’t have a ‘nothing’ box. Everything is our world is connected to each other. And I can’t find ONE SINGLE corner of my mind that doesn’t have SOMETHING in it!! I think it’s UNFAIR and I’m just going to say it!
Last night I was trying to sleep. I had taken a lot of medication yesterday due to a wicked headache and had dozed off and on during the day – sitting up in bed with an ice pack on my forehead. Not a fun day. But when it was time to sleep last night – I just couldn’t get my mind to SHUT OFF!!! It was really ridiculous. I looked over at my sweet sleepy husband – dreaming peacefully – I think he was even SMILING. How dare he? I’m tossing and turning and not comfortable and my mind is just twirling around and around and around…
So…I got to thinking – why can Men have a “nothing” box – and we can’t?? That’s very sexist – don’t you think? They GO there. They unwind. They do NOTHING!!! And we are constantly thinking – our minds are swirling around – creating different scenarios – writing a whole book in our brains – thinking about what happened that day – the past week – the past year – oh yes – our WHOLE LIVES!!! People we’ve loved and lost – friends that have come and gone – what we should have done differently – things we could do today – things we didn’t say – things we should say – and what about that event that happened last year – or 5 years ago – or in high school for that matter….and on and on and on and on it goes. Not to mention the things we have to do tomorrow and the next week – and what about that piano and voice schedule – and theater class – OH MY – the music for class – how will they ever learn it – and the upcoming recital – are my boys going to be able to finish up and graduate????? What if they can’t – I will have to start all over again – pick a new date – not that I picked the first one out yet – but that will mean I have to do it ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!! (It’s exhausting being a Woman)
So I said to Greg – he was awake by this time with my tossing and turning – “Why do guys just get to have a ‘nothing box’? I would do ANYTHING to have one of those – especially when it’s time to go TO SLEEP!!! But he just laughed and patted me – as if to say, “You poor thing – don’t you know that only guys can think about absolutely nothing and be very happy to do it”? I guess he’s right.
I did try to lie very still – and imagine NOTHING. It lasted for about 2 seconds and I found myself again thinking about SOMETHING. I’m really no good at the ‘nothing’ box. In fact – I’m no good at any box at all. I’m a woman.
I do sometimes get jealous of my male counterpart – and how he can just “unwind” – and not really let things bother him much. He handles stress and anything else thrown at him with a cool, calm and rational mind. And I have noticed all my male friends are pretty much the same way. A voice of reason in a ‘world gone mad’ – or so it seems to me sometimes.
I am however glad that I am able to experience things based on emotion – something men never usually do. Once a memory has emotion tied with it – as was stated in the video – it is forever etched in the brain – NEVER to be forgotten. This can be both positive and negative. I am still in process learning which ones are good – and which ones are bad. And because I am a woman – it is sometimes hard to distinguish the good from the bad when it comes to emotion and feelings connected with a memory. But I’m learning – but I doubt I will ever really master it.
No – I’m thinking I would like a corner of my mind that I go to to just SHUT DOWN – a button I could push that would turn everything off for me – allow me to sleep – and a place where even my busy dreams wouldn’t follow me – but they do follow me – even long after I’ve surrendered to sleep. But I’m learning to meditate on restful things – even read a passage from the Psalms is very helpful right before going to sleep.
I am trusting all of you can do the same.